On December 6, we mark the anniversary of the 1989 École Polytechnique massacre, where 14 women were singled out and murdered because of their gender. One of those women, Maryse Laganière, was a CUPE member who worked at the school.
On this day, we join with millions of Canadians, in unions and organizations of all kinds, to encourage our members to learn more, bargain and take action.
An Instagram model has created an account purely to help women catch their cheating boyfriends in the act.
California-based Paige Woollen receives a lot of messages from men on Instagram, many of whom appear to have girlfriends.
With this in mind, Paige decided to take it upon herself to catch these men in the act, and to see if they admitted to having girlfriends when asked.
The 28-year-old explained, ‘I had been noticing a lot of guys that DM me on my personal account had profile photos with their girlfriends. It got me wondering if their girlfriends know or care that they DM random girls with photos in their bikinis.’
She continued, ‘I personally believe snitches get stitches, but I felt like using the power of @dudesinthedm for good and helping out my female followers. I posted a story about DMing their boyfriends from my main account to see if they would cop to having a girlfriend or not.’
Paige turned out to be quite surprised with the results of her investigations, and found that many of the men either stopped responding to her, or fessed up that they were actually taken. She said, ‘Only a few lied and said they were single.’
One guy who failed Paige’s test was asked, ‘Just thought you were so so cute. Was hoping to meet up if you’re single of course.’ The guy then replied, ‘I’m single enough, do you have Snapchat?’ Queue a Britain’s Got Talent-esque klaxon.
Another guy who Paige told he was cute replied with, ‘Me? You’re like a supermodel!’ The guy who evidently had a girlfriend from the looks of his Instagram then wrote, ‘You’re in LA? I’m there all the time for work, we should go out.’
Paige’s @dudesinthedm, which boasts more than 42,000 followers, also shows screenshots of some of the messages she receives from guys – and they’re pretty gross.
One blunt individual repeatedly asked the 28-year-old if her breasts were real, while another confident dude gave Paige their wifi password so she didn’t need to ask for it when she went round to his house. Optimistic.
From the kind of messages Paige’s receives, you can’t blame her for wanting to call out the ones with girlfriends.
There has been a big shift in the mentality surrounding a woman’s place in a shearing shed, but grazier and learner shearer Diana Goode says women have always had a place in agriculture.
“I think the big change there is the mentality,” she said.
“Once upon a time women would look at that kind of work and think, ‘I could never do that’.
“But when you see one or two, all of a sudden it opens up everything and you think, ‘Why can’t I do that’?”
Decades of drought have left sheep numbers depleted across western Queensland, and as the numbers dwindled so too did the opportunities to get into the sheep and wool industry.
But, this is changing.
Now that stocks are rebuilding, the industry is acutely aware of its ageing workforce and the vital role young people can play in its survival.
In years gone by, it was the men who were on the shears and the women who were classing the wool or sweeping the boards. But now, women are picking up the tools.
Hope Young, a trainer with the University of Queensland, knows the importance of attracting young people to the industry and sees firsthand the increase in women in sheds across the country.
“Definitely, it was a male-dominated area but it’s well overcome by women, so it’s really a women’s industry,” she said.
“There seems to be a big demand for women in the agriculture industry as a whole.
“This young generation really wants to to be embracing the whole industry and they’re proving quite formidable.”
‘It’s part of me’
Vivienne Elliott is another young woman making a place for herself in shearing sheds across the country.
Having grown up with the sound of sheep hooves on wooden floorboards, Ms Elliott is no stranger to a shearing shed.
It’s one of her favourite places to be, and it is the background of her ambitions.
“When we were little we used to run around the shed when everyone was shearing,” she said.
“At home, because we’ve got a lot of sheep, I thought, ‘One day, I’ll get more sheep than Dad’.
“So I think I’ll stick to the wool and sheep industry because it’s something that I’ve grown up with. It’s part of me.”
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Industry crying out for staff
In western Queensland, there have been no accredited training opportunities for young people for at least five years.
But the Remote Area Planning and Development Board (RAPAD) recently joined forces with the University of Queensland to answer the calls of the local industry, which has been crying out for ‘ready-to-work’ staff for some time now.
Liza Cameron brought local industry members together with Ms Young to run a week-long accredited sheep and wool course, which she said was highly subscribed by young men and women from across the west.
“I think it is really indicative of the change in the industry,” she said.
“We had a lot of inquiries from young women.”
Shearing trainer Geoff Cullen says the industry needs young people, and he says training schools are a great opportunity for education.
“It’s a really good program,” he said.
“I hope we can keep it rolling and keep young people coming into the industry, which it’s really desperate for.”
The 2021 Grammy nominations were announced on Tuesday, Nov. 24, and there are a lot of celebrities that are not happy with the list. One celebrity that was vocal about her disappointment with the Best R&B Album nominees list is Teyana Taylor.
After the Twitter account @chartdata tweeted the nominees for best R&B album, Taylor retweeted the post with a viral GIF of Viola Davis as Annalise Keating on the former ABC-TV show “How To Get Away With Murder.” The GIF shows Keating getting annoyed and picking up her bag to leave. Taylor, 29, followed up by retweeting several tweets from fans expressing that Taylor and her 2020 album titled “The Album” was robbed of a spot on the nominee list.
Taylor later retweeted and responded to the Grammys Twitter account after it uploaded a tweet congratulating the 63rd Annual Grammy Awards Best R&B Album nominees.
She said, “Y’all was better off just saying best MALE R&B ALBUM cause all I see is d–k in this category.”
Hours later, white Boston radio host Karson Tager responded to Teyana writing, “…meanwhile every singer nominated in the Best Rock Performance doesn’t have a , what’s your point?”
Taylor clapped back, saying, “My point is MY POINT. I said what da f–k I said. It shoulda been some WAP’s in tha R&B category. Instead it was filled with a bunch of , Now stay outta black women business.”
Although there weren’t any women listed in that specific category, the other four remaining R&B categories did have some women nominated. Jhene Aiko, Beyoncé, Chloe and Halle and H.E.R received multiple nominations in the other R&B categories: Best R&B Performance, Best Traditional R&B Performance, Best R&B Song and Best Progressive R&B Album.
The Recording Academy, the organization that awards the Grammys, announced in June that it would be changing the name of the Best Urban Contemporary Album Category to Best Progressive R&B Album due to controversial discussions surrounding the word “urban.” Many people felt that the word is insensitive and is used to racially stereotype black people.
After changing the title, interim Recording Academy president and Grammys chief Harvey Mason Jr. said the new “category is intended to highlight albums that include the more progressive elements of R&B and may include samples and elements of hip-hop, rap, dance, and electronic music. It may also incorporate production elements found in pop, euro-pop, country, rock, folk, and alternative.”
Women from First Nations communities in New Brunswick have a new online store to help find a bigger audience for their art and to make up for sales lost to COVID-19.
The site is called Nujintuisga’tijig E’pijig, which means “Indigenous women salespeople or vendors” in the Mi’kmaq language, and currently features 16 artists — but there is room for up to 30.
Leona Newkinga, a Mi’kmaw and Inuit woman who lives in Elsipogtog, has her bead work featured on the site. She hopes it can bring a bigger audience to her work.
“My goal is to reach more people,” said Newkinga.
She already has pieces with Buffy Sainte-Marie and Jeremy Dutcher, but she’d like her work to go all over the globe.
“I was thinking to myself, ‘Wouldn’t that be amazing if, like, one of my pieces were like further than I have ever been?” she said.
Newkinga started beading about five years ago and said she wasn’t very good at first, “so the prices were really cheap.”
But she honed her skills after a disappointing exchange with a potential customer who was inspecting something Newkinga had for sale at a craft sale.
“This woman, she says ‘Your work is only worth five bucks’ and that devastated me because I put hours into it,” said Newkinga.
“I knew I wanted to be at a point where nobody can negotiate prices,” and she accomplished that.
Newkinga said people seem to have a new respect for Indigenous art in the last few years.
“From when I first started out to now, it’s the big difference,” she said.
Newkinga said COVID-19 hurt her income because she runs a business selling Indian tacos at pow wows over the summer, and those haven’t happened this year. COVID-19 also put a damper on her creative output.
“I try not to bead if I’m not feeling good or anything like that, because everything, your energy, is woven into your pieces,” she said.
But, Newkinga said she’s back at it and recently received a sparkling new shipment of beads.
She hopes the website will help sell her newest creations.
Tahnee Simon started beading after her grandmother showed her how to make a flower when she was in grade school.
Over the years, Simon would put her beading aside, but she always came back to it.
“I could drown in it for like three to four hours and not realize how much time went by,” she said.
“It’s relaxing for me.”
Simon has a full-time job with Mi’kmaq Child and Family Services but decided to bead professionally as a ‘side-gig’ after a co-worker suggested it.
“I was super nervous because, I’m not the one to be the centre of attention or, like, have my name out there,” said Simon.
“It was a big step for me but I’m happy I did it because I love seeing customers wearing my work and it still feels awesome.”
Simon is happy to be part of the pilot project and hopes people enjoy her work.
“I thought it was such a great idea to get all Indigenous women names out there and give the public an idea of what we can do,” said Simon.
If the site takes off, Katherine Lanteigne, director of Women in Business New Brunswick said the project could be opened up to other Indigenous women in Atlantic Canada.
Have you ever trusted someone and later regretted it? It is easier to live through life when you have a set of friends whom you fully trust. This article is to help those who are too trusting to become more aware of the risks that come with being overly trusting.
Let’s start off with a little test to see if you are too trusting. Answer these yes or no questions and tally them in the end for your results. These questions were created by Linda Sapadin, PhD., psychologist, success coach, and author:
Do you feel guilty if you doubt your partner, wondering what’s wrong with you?
Do you pride yourself on being easy-going, doing whatever your partner wants?
Do you let your partner walk all over you, ignoring your feelings or desires?
Do you turn a blind eye to events that are disturbing to you?
Do you brush off your doubts, ignoring the uncomfortable feelings you have?
Do you buy every excuse your partner makes, regardless of how implausible it sounds?
Do you prefer that your partner take the lead so you don’t have to make the decisions?
Do you ignore your partner’s misbehavior, telling yourself to be more trusting?
Do you avoid asking questions about what your partner is doing or thinking?
If you answered yes to many of the questions above, then you may trust others too easily. Sapadin, however, says to not jump to conclusions and think that you may never be able to trust your partner at all (even if they did not give you any reason to not trust them). She suggests to those who believe in others a little too much to “start paying attention to your own intuition.”
Looks, flirtation, and sex being used as tools
There are users out there who know what they bring to the table and may use what they have to manipulate others.
Marty Nemko Ph.D., a career and personal coach, says, “such people could be much more trouble than they’re worth, whether in business or personal relationships, but they wield their looks, smiles, or sexuality to blind the recipient, even at an outsized cost.”
Nemko suggests, in this case, to view the person and their behavior as a whole. Do their words line up with their actions?
Kindness…with strings attached
While the first may have given you a sense of despair when it comes to how others behave, rest assure that there are others out there who are nice for the sake of being nice. Sometimes, they can be confused with those who are “fake nice.”
Nemko states, “other people use kindness as a weapon: to disarm and/or create obligation so that later, they can extract selfish benefits well beyond the kindness they bestowed.”
In this case, Nemko advises to ask yourself the question: are they nice all (or most) of the time, or are they being unexpectedly nice at the moment, which may be out of character?
Receiving praise and compliments from people you pay
Be wary of those who always give you compliments and never critiques to help your performance. Some examples of people you pay who may give you compliments include teachers, therapists, car salesmen, and coaches. Remember, this is not an exhaustive list.
As Nemko asserts, “Whether true or not, saying nice things about you or your work increases their chances of keeping your money coming, getting better user reviews, and getting your praise, at far less risk to them than if they were critical of you.”
Watch out for the overly generous offer
When something sounds too good to be true, that usually means it is.
Nemko states, “Other times, what seems a generous offer hides that a better offer could have been had, that the product or service is worse than you think, or that the person will be generous this time but will want a bigger advantage soon regarding something else.”
Also, watch out for faking emotion
Women are naturally trained to respond to emotions like crying or anger. This is mainly due to the fact that we need these specific cues to activate our motherly instinct.
Some manipulators will use this knowledge to their advantage. While sometimes, the anger and tears are real, watch out for people who fake their emotions to get you to do what they want.
For example, say you want to break up with your significant other because you are not in love with them anymore. If they are a manipulator, they will cry and get angry rather quickly to try to persuade you into staying with them. They may even threaten to kill themselves if you leave them (as explained in this article, it is considered abuse) but then act completely fine after you agree to stay.
Nemko says, although easier said than done, try to make decisions based on the merits — not the melodrama they want to create.
They bring up past mistakes
We all make mistakes. Being intimate with someone requires you to share ideas and thoughts that are closest to you. While this can help to deepen the relationship, some manipulators may use your past mistakes and weaknesses against you.
This may occur in arguments to make your perspective easier to dismiss. By bringing up your insecurities, they intend to wound you and leave you upset and vulnerable, says Timothy J. Legg, Ph.D., CRNP.
Nemko cautions those who are being manipulated by this tactic. He says, “The person reveals a small weakness or past failing, not to deepen the relationship but to encourage you to admit a more serious failing, which can then be used against you.”
Making a strategically significant step, the BJP has for the first time in the election history of Kerala picked two Muslim women candidates to contest under their banner in the coming local body polls in Malappuram district.
This unprecedented entry of Muslim candidates as BJP nominees has been a shot in the arm for the party cadres in the Muslim-predominant Malappuram district, a citadel of Indian Union Muslim League (IUML).
Though several male candidates belonging to the Muslim community are in the fray representing the saffron party in the civic elections, there are only two women candidates from the community contesting as its candidates with the Lotus symbol in Malappuram.
While Wandoor-native T P Sulfath is contesting from ward 6 of Wandoor grama panchayat, Ayisha Hussain, native of Chemmad is contesting in ward 9 of the Ponmudam grama panchayat.
Both said they have their own reasons for becoming nominees of the BJP.
While Sulfath was impressed with the ‘progressive’ policies of the BJP government at the Centre that has made the fortunes of the Muslim women in the country change for better, Ayisha Hussain has political affinity towards the BJP owing to her husband’s affiliation with it.
It is the recent policies introduced by the Modi government, which made a larger impact on Muslim women that fascinated Sulfath.
“The banning of triple talaq and raising the age for women for marriage from 18 to 21 were the two major policies that influenced me.
These are bold measures towards the welfare of the Muslim women. Only Modi would dare to do such milestone actions,” Sulfath felt.
Mother of two children, Sulfath got married at the age of 15.
As a woman who suffered the pain and miseries of getting married in the teenage was so fascinated by the policy revision made by the central government that would help the Muslim women in a big way, she said.
Though Sulfath had a dream to get educated and earn a government job, an early-age marriage put a full stop to her studies in class 10.
Actively engaged in the family business of automobiles and real estate, Sulfath is now hoping for an upset win in her ward.
Ayisha Hussain has been attracted to the BJP through her husband Hussain, who is an active member of the Minority Morcha, an arm of the BJP.
Mother of a 10-year old girl, Ayisha supports the pro-Muslim women progressive policies introduced by the Narendra Modi government.
“I support Modiji and BJP for their bold policies for the welfare of the country,” said Ayisha.
Ayisha’s husband Hussain Varikottil is also contesting under the BJP banner from the Edarikode division of the Malappuram district panchayat.
Though it has a weak base in the IUML bastion of Malappuram, the candidature of the two Muslim women would matter much to the saffron party, which has been making all efforts to attract the Muslim community to the party to negate its popular image of a Hindu-oriented organisation.
The attack occurred around 2pm local time, when a 28-year-old Swiss woman, who lives in the area, grabbed the first victim by the neck with her bare hands before turning on a second woman and slashing her with a knife, police said.
Local media reports say that investigators have not ruled out terrorism as a motive for the attack.
Imagine you’re getting ready to sit down for your annual Thanksgiving dinner. The harmonious aroma of turkey, potatoes, and cranberry sauce is wafting through the house. You’ve likely fasted all day to ensure you have enough stomach room for a heaping plate of it all. (Perhaps, you even wore your special stretchy pants.)
Instead of sitting down for this once-a-year Thanksgiving feast, picture your family’s table dressed with a spread of venison, swan, and shellfish. Not exactly screaming, “Thanksgiving dinner.” In this case, you’d be eating exactly what the Pilgrims and the Wampanoag Indians prepared for the very first Thanksgiving!
While the gathering could have served the traditional turkey and corn pairing, it’s just as likely that the feast included a different bird—possibly swan—in addition to venison and shellfish, historians say. The corn was probably a bit off-menu too, as it could have been mashed up and used as a type of porridge.
New England Today magazine reprinted a letter that Edward Winslow, an English teacher at the time, wrote home to a friend, where he described the day like this:
“[F]or three days we entertained and feasted, and they went out and killed five deer, which we brought to the plantation and bestowed on our governor, and upon the captain and others. And although it be not always so plentiful as it was at this time with us, yet by the goodness of God, we are so far from want that we often wish you partakers of our plenty.”
“The First Thanksgiving at Plymouth” (1914) By Jennie A. Brownscombe
So, it’s clear that this first gathering had quite a bit of food. But, was their deer dish accompanied by one of the Thanksgiving staples: cranberry sauce? While the pilgrims probably knew about the fruit, the lack of available sugar would have prevented them from turning it into a sauce. Historians say it would be another 50 years before anyone did that.
Most of the food present on their table was actually shellfish. After all, they were feasting in New England! Where else can you get the best lobster, oysters, and clams? All were probably on the table, in addition to mussels and even eels!
Perhaps the most perfect pair alongside turkey, stuffing, and cranberry sauce is the beloved potato—mashed, sweet, baked, you name it! Unfortunately, none of the above were present for the first feast. Potatoes weren’t popular enough yet to make their way to the table, but turnips could’ve been. Then again, we’re not sure anyone ever got too excited about homemade mashed turnips.
So, what about dessert? What about pumpkin pie? Well, there was no butter or wheat flour for the crust, and of course, no ovens for baking. The closest anyone got to pumpkin pie were hollowed-out pumpkins, filled with milk and honey, and roasted. Certainly tasty, but it’s no pumpkin pie.
Thanksgiving in Camp, a wood engraving drawn by Winslow Homer and published in Harper’s Weekly, November 29, 1862.
Aside from the food on the table, what’s the biggest difference between today’s Thanksgiving dinner and those of yesteryear? No women.
Winslow reported that 90 men attended the feast, and NPR interprets this fact to mean no women were allowed. Those present viewed the dinner as a political meeting, not as the family get-together we celebrate today. And that meant the women stayed home.
“The Wampanoags and the Pilgrims were cementing a military alliance,” Robert Krulwich of NPR, wrote. “Massoasoit, the Wampanoag king, was there. So was the English governor, William Bradford. The first Thanksgiving was mostly a guys-only event where the English women, says [writer Andrew] Beahrs ‘were likely doing the bulk of the cooking.’”
There you have it. Not the food you expected. Not the company you expected.
It’s inarguable the Thanksgiving food—and the company—have just gotten better over time.
By Ryan Clark, contributor for Ripleys.com and host of Ripley’s Believe It or Notcast
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