A Nigerian realtor, Esv. Adesewa has advised men to marry when all their efforts to get a lot of money gets frustrated and the money is not coming.

According to her, some women open doors to success and so when you’re are struggling to get money and it is not coming forth, you just have to stop and pursue marriage instead.

The question that will be begging for answers is when a man decides to do that and the doors don’t get opened, what’s going to happen to the man?

He is probably going to live a frustrated life all his life as he will be struggling even harder just to provide for his family; or he will have his heart broken because some of these girls will not look back when you struggle to provide for them.

Some women are indeed door openers and when you marry them, doors open for you but how do you know this girl is a door opener or one who will come and shut the faint hopes that you have to succeed?

“Dear single guys, when you pursue money and it’s not forth coming, stop and pursue marriage. Some women are open doors to your success,” Adesewa tweeted.

Would you take this advice and marry when you’re struggling to make money?

A lot of women today will not even give in to a man who they see struggling because they don’t want to come in and be struggling with you unless they are swept away by some kind of love they feel for you.

There are a few out there who’d rather struggle with you to make things better and meeting such group of women is a daunting task these days.

Dear single guys, when you pursue money and it’s not forth coming, stop and pursue marriage. Some women are open doors to your success.

— Esv. Adesewa (@SewaHerself) December 26, 2020

Blow are some comments from people reacting to Adesewa’s post;

Tell them ooo……most especially Igbo guys….they will be saying until they make it ….. before they can marry.. if they are not meant to make it until they are 70yrs nko

— Matilda Abidemi (@matilda_abidemi) December 26, 2020

these are lies told by our parents. imagine someone who does not have a paying job, the family came together to give him a wife instead of a Job. What will he use in taking care of the family?? Marriage does not translate to wealth.

— cassi (@CassiTobi) December 26, 2020

Okay, let’s be realistic here. If someone who’s broke and doesn’t have a means of livelihood at the time being comes to seek for your hand in marriage, would you opt in to marry him?. pic.twitter.com/jC3ayeCmml

— Vino Tinto (@VincentEinstein) December 26, 2020

U will be surprised because that is one sure way to obtain favour from God

— Aja®_ perfect (@Aja_perfect) December 26, 2020

This life is a mystery that can’t be resolve by anyone. I have heard the story of a man that was foretold by 3 different people that until he goes to the prison and comes back that, that’s when he will make it in life and becomes rich. It eventually comes to reality.

— Badass Lanre (@maclerry) December 26, 2020

Lmao. Person never fit take care himself, you say make he go marry. What if na still same thing. Hunger wey go beat person ehn ??

— Jay (@Jaybaba_) December 26, 2020

It be like say na marriage I go pursue in 2021 since the money no gree come.
Abeg who is ready to marry me, make we kuku pursue this money together, after all teo heads are better than one.

— J u s t i n K a y c e e???? (@JustinKayceee) December 26, 2020

By most standards Jacinda Ardern, prime minister of New Zealand, has shown herself a competent politician. Notable achievements include winning two elections, demonstrating (since some men questioned it) that maternity is compatible with national leadership, and guiding her country through the shocks of the Christchurch terrorist attack, a volcanic eruption and now the pandemic. New Zealand, cautious from the start, is likely to end this year with 25 deaths from Covid, having apparently achieved this result without Ardern quietly enriching her friends or exposing her country to international contempt.

Compared, then, with prevailing British standards, her record is dazzling, or to render it into Johnsonian, world-beating. As Britons resign themselves to years more chaotic, divisive, corrupt, untrustworthy and fatally incompetent governance, Ardern’s period in office, while imperfect, has been good enough to win international tributes, including recently an International Activist Award whose first recipient was Nelson Mandela.

In this context Ardern has spoken – again – about her self-doubt. She said she suffers – still, after three years in office – from impostor syndrome, a lack of confidence in her professional ability. Not, she insists, because she’s a woman. “However, I have on many occasions thought, ‘I cannot do that because it’s me’. Impostor syndrome is real.” With this she becomes the most eminent woman associated with impostor syndrome since Michelle Obama told British schoolgirls: ”It doesn’t go away, that feeling that you shouldn’t take me that seriously. What do I know? I share that with you because we all have doubts in our abilities, about our power and what that power is.”

That these doubts should be problematic has been pretty much an axiom in the endless discussions since imposter syndrome was first identified in 1978 – around the time women were really starting to infuriate male-dominated professions. No parallel term has, for some reason, caught on for the contrasting superpower: a pattern of idle over-confidence and assumptions about merited success that has rarely been more visible than throughout Brexit, starting with that paragon of baffling self-esteem David Cameron.

Where Ardern, politically active at 17, doubted her worthiness to be a national leader, Cameron, with no youthful history of political engagement, accounted for his ambition to become prime minister: “Because I think I’d be rather good at it.” Yet more impressive to anyone who considers self-doubt a negative attribute, Cameron remains ostentatiously unashamed for having instigated the current catastrophe, before quitting so that a series of fellow martyrs to unexamined self-esteem – twat syndrome? – could claim a Brexit deal would be “the easiest in human history”. Not that a self-doubt deficit is an exclusively Tory trait. Think of Tony Blair, unable to comprehend that his further interventions might be pointless; of Jeremy Corbyn, so undaunted by failure that he is agitating for a replacement pedestal.

With impostor syndrome established, however, as the problem, counsellors have naturally come forward with therapies to make clients more sure of themselves, to help banish thoughts that might range from “did I deserve that promotion?” to “am I really cut out to be pandemic health minister?”, or “does my much younger girlfriend really fancy me, or could there be another reason?” Working with the right therapist it’s possible, apparently, for sufferers to transcend these tendencies, the better to thrive in a culture in which the habits of fatuous entitlement, complacency and winging it are not just tolerated but idealised.

In the terrible biography of Churchill that it did not embarrass Boris Johnson to cobble together, he assumes readers will share his passion for “brio and self-confidence”, for a hero who “almost bursts with brio”, for yet more “brio and insolence” from a leader who “thinks of himself as a gigantic keystone in the arch”. So far is Johnson himself from entertaining any natural, Ardern-like modesty that the overwhelming evidence that he is, in practice, a world-beating liability, has only prodded him into wilder self-promotion, to the point of hiring a state photographer to immortalise his assorted victory poses. It’s probably superfluous to add that from any woman leader this kind of disturbing display – the press-ups, the mad hair, the boasting about butcher’s dogs – would have prompted immediate questions about mental stability.

If Caroline Criado Perez, the brilliant author of Invisible Women, has taught us anything, it’s to watch for the masculine default. In this case the association of authority with traditionally male exhibitions of extreme assurance. Refreshing as it is to hear an admired national leader like Ardern admit to brio-free moments and to compensatory hard work, their attribution to some sort of anomalous syndrome must encourage the similarly afflicted – predominantly women – to identify their experience as deviating from an approved norm.

If impostor syndrome is really an obstacle then Michelle Obama might want to work on hers in order to become more like, say, Jacob Rees-Mogg, a man who has indicated by lying down and closing his eyes, how little he struggles with being promoted far beyond his microscopic abilities. Instead of a warning, habitual posturing secured him a book contract, resulting in The Victorians, described as “so bad, so boring, so mind-bogglingly banal that if it had been written by anyone else it would never have been published”.

That there’s a bashful, pop-psychology term for self-doubt and hesitancy in leaders but no equivalent that pathologises individuals who take this status for granted, is clearly marvellous for the truly delusional group, and equally ghastly for their victims. In fact, when the world’s most high-achieving women – but never men – are still swapping inadequacies, it’s possibly time to accept that the survival of this dodgily multifaceted “syndrome” is just more evidence of enduring discrimination. Who needs to challenge women on their emotions or child-bearing in high office when, unprovoked, they’ll trace the uneasiness of the resented incomer to a problem within themselves?

• Catherine Bennett is an Observer columnist

Four of the five family members found shot dead inside their Arkansas home in a suspected murder suicide on Christmas Day have been pictured for the first time. 

All the of the victims were female, with their ages ranging from eight to 50-years-old, police said Saturday. They have not been named by officers.

Pope County Sheriff Shane Jones said the suspect is believed to be among the dead, ABC reports. Jones added: ‘It’s rare anywhere. We just need to pray for a family that’s just been devastated.’ 

Relatives of the two women and three girls have set up a GoFundMe to help with funeral costs for the Heflin/Patrick family, writing: ‘On Christmas day, we recieved [sic] unimaginable news. 

‘5 of our precious relatives were found deceased in their home. A grandmother, mother, and 3 children, all taken from us.’

All the of the victims were female, with their ages ranging from eight to 50-years-old, police said Saturday. They have not been named by officers. Relatives of the two women and three girls have set up a GoFundMe using this image

Investigators with the Pope County Sheriff’s Office and Arkansas State Police are seen Saturday at a home near Atkins where five people were found dead

‘We can’t fathom the pain or the cost of laying 5 of us to rest at once. We are devastated,’ the page adds.  

Investigators from the Pope County Sheriff’s Office said they received a phone call at around 5:15pm on Friday indicating suspicious activity inside a home on the 5100 block of Pine Ridge Road near Atkins, some 65 miles northwest of Little Rock.

There they found ‘five individuals were located deceased in the home’. 

In a statement police said: ‘At this time, we believe this to be an isolated incident, and do not feel that there is any continued danger to the local public.’ 

An investigation is ongoing. The probe is being conducted by the Pope County Sheriff’s Office as well as the Arkansas State Police. 

Deputies from the Pope County Sheriff’s Office in Central Arkansas said on Friday that five people were found dead inside a home near Atkins

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Two women and three girls have been found dead inside a home on Christmas night, in the US state of Arkansas

Police were called to the home in Atkins around 5pm on Friday after a family member visited and found five people dead.

The deaths are being treated as suspected murders.

They are all believed to be related and some had gunshot wounds.

“It’s rare anywhere,” Jones said of the incident.

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“We just need to pray for a family that’s been devastated.”

“We do believe that this is domestic-related, possibly.”

The incident is believed to be isolated and police are not looking for a suspect.

While local authorities have not identified a suspect, they say that they do not believe that a suspect is at large.

“At this time, we believe this to be an isolated incident, and do not feel that there is any continued danger to the local public,” the Pope County Sheriff’s Office later said in a statement.

On Sunday, distraught relatives of the family set up a GoFundMe campaign to raise funds for the funerals of the deceased.

“On Christmas day, we received unimaginable news,” said organiser Melissa Renee Brown.

“Five of our precious relatives were found deceased in their home.

“A grandmother, mother, and three children, all taken from us.”

Ms Brown said she had received approval from the only surviving family member to create the fundraiser on their behalf.

“We need the community to pray for peace, guidance, wisdom, truth, and justice,” the fundraiser post said.

“We need you to share this post.

“And for anyone who can donate anything, big or small, we thank you tremendously for the outpouring of love.”

Arkansas State Police and the Arkansas State Crime Lab are involved in the ongoing investigation.

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“Mirage Cat”

For centuries, cats have served as both inspirations for works of art and as companions for many artists themselves. Korean creative Jang Koal continues this long-standing tradition of feline-inspired art in her own dreamy style. Her series of paintings called Mirage Cat depicts beautiful, raven-haired women holding black cats that are actually made up of their own glossy locks.

So far, this ongoing project includes one sketch and three acrylic portraits painted on hanji (Korean mulberry paper) that is mounted on a wood panel. Each of the subjects is shown in a traditional portrait style, where they are either standing or sitting before the viewer. The women wear feminine dresses with intricate floral prints and keep their shiny hair down. As the tresses cascade into their arms, however, it takes on the recognizable shape of a cat—and in one painting, two cats—with wide, watchful eyes. None of these women seem to be aware of the mirage, as they carry the feline-like shape in their arms all the same. The colorful botanical backgrounds complete these portraits as windows into a wonderful daydream.

Scroll down to see more paintings by Koal, and follow the artist on Instagram to keep up to date with her latest creations.

Artist Jang Koal creates dreamy paintings of women holding cats made up of their own hair.

“Mirage Cat #4”

The whimsical series of acrylic paintings is called Mirage Cat.

“Mirage Cat #3”

“Mirage Cat #1”

In addition to Mirage Cat, Koal creates more feline-inspired works.

“To my eyes #1”

Detail of “To my eyes #1”

“To my eyes #2”

Detail of “To my eyes #2”

My Modern Met granted permission to feature photos by Jang Koal. 

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Deputies responded to a call around 5 p.m. Friday and found the five people dead in a home in Atkins, a city about 65 miles (105 kilometers) northwest of Little Rock, Pope County Sheriff Shane Jones said in a statement. The dead were between 8 and 50 years old and are all believed to have been related, he said.

4 women arrested for allegedly spiking people’s drinks in Ruiru

Four women were arrested on Sunday following complaints that they have been spiking people’s drinks and conning them in Ruiru.

According to the Directorate of Criminal Investigations, the four women and a male accomplice have been stealing from unsuspecting members of the public.

“Mobile phones and several bottles bearing labels of various brands of alcohol, and which are believed to contain stupefying substances were also confiscated from the five, aged between 24 and 30 years,” the DCI said.

The suspects have been identified as Salome Njuguna, Rahab Mburu, Naomi Njuguna, Peninah Wanjiru and Hilary Waweru.

They were arrested at Rainbow Hotel in Ruiru following a tip-off from the victims, the DCI said.

“The seized items will be subjected to forensic analysis to determine their content, as further investigations continue to establish the suspects’ modes of operation,” the DCI added.

Members of the public who wish to share information with the DCI anonymously are advised to dial toll-free hotline number 0800 722 203 which is a service available 24 hours a day throughout the week.

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A relative visiting family at Christmas made a gruesome discovery when they entered their relatives’ Pope County, Arkansas, home to find two women and three girls dead.

The Pope County Sheriff’s Office responded to a report of a possible homicide on Pine Ridge Road on Christmas Day after the family member discovered the bodies, the sheriff’s office said.

All five victims—ranging in age from 8 to 50—were related to each other, Sheriff Shane Jones said in a news conference Saturday.

It’s unclear how long the women and girls had been dead before their bodies were discovered. Asked if the victims suffered gunshot wounds, Jones said was too early to tell but “some are gunshot wounds.”

The incident appeared to be isolated and domestic in nature, Jones said, and there is no danger to the public.

No suspect has been identified. Arkansas State Police are assisting local investigators.

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Veteran Ghanaian movie actress, entrepreneur brand influencer and philanthropist, Nana Ama Mcbrwon, has stretched her blessings and benevolence to the door steps of the Kayaye women in Konkomba market to mark her boxing day celebration.

The mother of one-together with her husband and members of her foundation stormed the abovementioned market centre to donate items such as bags of rice, bottles of oil, sanitary pads and a whole lot of other kinds of stuff to these lucky women and their children.

Sighting from the video, the multi-talented showbiz figure also treated these kayayes to some sort of entertainment in the course of the donation exercise.

Kindly watch the video below to know more..